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Why a "get together"
We call this a "pseudo date". If you use the word "date" , particularly with a younger female, it
has all sorts of connotations. What if someone sees her, what if someone finds out, what would
her friends think of her "dating" an older man!
Yes she finds older men exciting. Yes she wants to explore further. Yes she is nervous.
Hence we call it a "get together". A "plausible" reason to get together without ever mentioning
the word "date".
Make it easy for her to say "YES"
She may offer some info, like my car stereo is not hooked up correctly, etc.
Offer to have a look. "Debbie, I'd be happy to look on Saturday afternoon at 2.00pm.
I can do it on the way to a game I want to see at 3.30pm".
Make it easy for her to say "yes" by putting a time limit on the "get together".
Alternatively, if it's for a coffee to review her resume for a new job, same deal.
Make it easy for her to say yes.
This means somewhere easy that is within 15 minutes of where she
lives or works. Somewhere she knows, like the local mall etc. Somewhere public & non-threatening.
Make it time limited. If she is unsure, she is still more likely to go if it is time limited.
Remember, she is not particularly interested in the resume. That's just a pretext to get
together with you (a powerful Alpha male).
She thinks "ok, I'll go. If he ends up being boring, at least it's only an hour".
"If my friends see me, I'll just say he was helping with my resume".
When speaking with her, use words like "lets review the resume at xyz coffee shop.
1.00pm works for me and I have a
meeting at 2.30pm. How does that sound"?
Know the place you have chosen to meet her at. You do not want to walk in and look around like a lost puppy. This means, you already know the place, or if not, then go and check it out. Know where the entry door(s) are so that on the day you meet, you will be at a table where you can see her arrive. Know where the washroom is, etc.
When you are there with her and if she asks where the washroom is, you want to confidently tell her. Men are always in control and know their surroundings.
Arrive and park with plenty of spare time. Rushing in 10 minutes late all hot & flushed is not a good look. Also, it means she was sitting there alone & uncomfortable. Arrive with time to spare. Enter 5 to 10 minutes before the agreed meeting time. Bring a magazine or something to read. You are busy & use the extra time to catch up on reading. Do not sit there alone just waiting.
Once she shows up, sit at 90 degrees, not opposite her. It allows her the chance to touch you during conversation. For instance, touching your arm while making a point. This is a strong sign of interest. Match her body language. If she is leaning back and closed off, do the same yourself. She may not be feeling very secure meeting someone new. Once she opens up and leans in, you do the same. Leaning in is a good sign of interest in the other person.
Never ask for the next date while on the current date
Even if it's going great. Even if this is the second get together.
Never ask for the next get together during the current get together.
Instead, "I had a great time.
Thank you Debbie". Shake hands & walk away.
This leaves her wondering if you will call again. Of course you will, just she cannot be SURE you will.
Anticipation + doubt = DESIRE.
You are an Alpha male. You have a busy, fulfilling and rewarding life.
You may find time to fit her in, but then you may not.
By contrast, boys ask for the second date at
or near the end of the first date. Just like lost puppies.
She then knows she can have him if she wants to.
Interest drops, his likelihood of getting her plummets to zero.
An Alpha male has the attitude "I'm the catch here. If you (the girl) play your cards right, then maybe
we will end up rolling in the hay. Then again, maybe not. I haven't decided yet".
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